Am I my Husband's Keeper?

She Said....

From day one I knew my hubby-to-be was driven and ambitious. This explained why he would call me stressed out because of someone on his job that didn’t give the same 100% that he gives to every single thing he does. (I wish I was more like him.) This also explained the calls on Saturday morning from student and employees while we ran errands. (Those calls pissed me off).

He’s recently landed a job that was on his five year plan and we’ve been really excited about it. Actually, we prayed and prayed and prayed some more until “we” got the offer call. I mean how many people do you know that got a job in this recession? Yeah, he’s dope! This time it’s different; it’s more corporate and cut throat. He used to being the big fish in the little pond. He was the go to guy for years in the last two positions and now he has to start all over. This go round he is the minority (if you know what I mean).

I have a feeling other women get these calls too. I don’t know about other women but I think my hubby takes what I say to heart. At least I hope he does. I know sometimes I come off more mama bear than helpful (I’m constantly working on that). I don’t recall a time feeling burdened by his complaints. I actually welcome these conversations as an opportunity for me to contribute to his success.

Though I think I am helpful I constantly wonder if the advice I give is appropriate or from the wrong perspective. I wonder if I am Michelle to his Barack. I wonder if he relies too much on my thoughts. I wonder how much responsibility would I have to bear if my advice backfires? I wonder is being my husband’s go-to person a guiltless job. Am I my husband’s keeper?